Sunday, 8 January 2017

January 2017 Update

Isaac will be turning four soon. He can be a charming little boy but he can also be a handful. He is like a leech. Sticks to me and chooses me over his father most of the time. He wants me to sit next to him in the car, at the dining table, sleep next to him, etc. Of course I don't comply with his every request. It is also almost impossible to do your own thing while he is awake. The other day i tried to sew up a tear in his jeans. I lost count as to how many times I was interrupted and in the end, I could not focus on my task and abandoned it to play with him. Think about it now, I guess he won! Gosh.

Anyway it's the new year..Hello 2017. I celebrated my 32 birthday. Had a nice lunch with family. The Fongs joined in as they were here for a holiday.

I took the 3rd off from work and went to a new Korean hair salon for some pampering and went shopping. Bought a handbag :)

We are looking forward to a number of things this month:
-Trip to Malaysia (Kl & Penang)
-Ken Yoong and Nicki's wedding (21/1)
-Isaac's 4th birthday (25/1)
-Chinese New Year (28/1)

This will be Isaac's first CNY in Malaysia and our second CNY as a married couple. Lots more ang Pows to give and a lot more places to visit so this will require more planning. It's going to be fun and I'm sure Isaac will enjoy throwing pop pops all around!

Wednesday, 9 November 2016

Growing up

This week has been a difficult week at work. Problems after problems with no resolution. Working in frontline customer service where decisions are made from those above you and you are the one conveying the news, good and bad, can put you in a difficult position at times.

Sometimes I ask myself the question, when will I grow up? Why do I feel anxious about the same problems that happen at work? I'm no longer in my twenties, surely I should be more mature about these things and not hide behind my manager. One day she will move on and I will have to step up.

I guess I've realised that I have grown and matured as compared to the twenty year old Joy who was a fresh grad from uni. How do we grow? We grow through life's challenges and situations. We grow by learning from and listening to others. We grow by applying the Word of God into our daily lives. Growing is scary but when you grow together with others, it makes it better because you are not alone. And when things are beyond our control and knowledge, I ask God for creativity, insight and wisdom. I also ask Him to take care of things for me because I am overwhelmed and it is beyond me.
I am his beloved and I will not fear.

Thursday, 14 April 2016

March 2016 Update

"And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast"

Trip to Werribee Zoo

Ken's dad was in Melbourne from 29 February to 13 March. One of our family's new year resolutions is to have a family outing once a month. This month we decided to visit the Werribee Open Range Zoo. It was quite a drive, an hour in total. We had a good time and as expected did A LOT of walking. I was always start out being really enthusiastic but often end up so tired that I just want to go home haha. The highlight of the trip would be the safari ride on a big bus. Here are some photos from the trip:

Wedding Anniversary 

We celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary with a sumptuous dinner at TGIF, Doncaster. Ken's dad was in town so he gladly babysat Isaac while we enjoyed a night out together. It was a Monday and TGIF was having a special discount on the beef ribs so that turn out to be an extra treat!

I am so thankful to have Ken in my life. I still remember the first time we met and all the fond memories while we were dating. One thing I can say is that Ken has proven to be a very reliable person. If he is able to help out, he will unless he has a commitment which he can't say no to.

Ferry from Sorrento to Queenscliff

Jay Son, Jo, Eric, Sonia, Stephen and us decided to go on a day trip on the Saturday of the Easter weekend. We drove down to Sorrento and had an Italian lunch. It was busy in Sorrento but still enjoyable. Jo told us about the infamous vanilla slice there so we got our hands on that. We then boarded the ferry to Queenscliff. The last time I took the ferry was when I started uni. It was part of the Big Day Out organised for international students by Monash. Ken was there too but we didn't know each other then. 

I felt quite sea sick on the ferry unfortunately. Isaac was running about and I was so worried for him but I was glad he was having fun! 

Swim Classes 

After Easter, Isaac moved up to Courage 2 in his swim class. Yay! In this class, Isaac goes into the pool by himself with an instructor and learns more swim techniques such as putting his head under water and swimming on his own using a 'noodle'. We were worried that he wouldn't go in to the pool without us but as Ken was close by (in the pool), Isaac was confident and participated really well.

First lesson

Second lesson @ Aquanation, Ringwood


Currently reading: Living a Life of Fire by Reinhard Bonnke

Currently watching: Madame Antoine (K-Drama) 

Monday, 7 March 2016

Isaac's rude behaviors

I'm glad today is Monday and that I am actually back at work! 

The weekend was tough. The little man, Isaac, has been very rude to me and Ken. He are some of his new behaviors that appeared on the weekend:

1. He sulks by folding his arms, turning around so his back faces you and not move. We were at the Werribee open range zoo on Saturday and he didn't want to leave the lions so he reacted that way. I guess it's better than a crying tantrum throwing kid ?? However when we coaxed him nicely, he dropped the bad mood and happily followed us. Bizarre. 

2. Reacting rudely to reminders. 
Ok I guess Kevin Leman is right. Say it once, that's it. Isaac was watching you tube on the iPad and i told him it was the last video. I then reminded him again to which he frowned and not taking his eyes off the iPad said in a grumpy voice, I know that' I was so taken aback I wasn't sure what to do except to tell him that was rude. When the video finally ended, did he remember it was the last one? Perhaps but still negotiated for another. He was satisfied when I said you can watch videos again when mummy is cooking next time. 

It looks like there's less outbursts but more rude behaviors. 

3. Shouting.
When we say no to him, he shouts back saying 'No daddy!! Or no mummy!!' Really angrily and loudly. It is shocking to see a young child have so much anger. Thankfully it dissipates. I like how Kevin leman says to ignore the behavior and walk away. Isaac stops it when he gets no attention from us. Having said that, it hurts our feelings when he talks that way. Yesterday Ken said he feels like a bad parent. 

4. He is possessive. Sunday was hard. He just kept whining and wanted me to play with him. I don't mind playing with him but sometimes it feels as if you are his prisoner!! I felt so suffocated and exasperated that I took off and went shopping by myself while Ken took him for swimming. The behavior continued throughout the day. At life group he refused to join the other kids in the kids the kids program and insisted I play with him or go with him. All the other kids were not like that. So throughout the bible study, he interrupted me with requests for food, drink, climbed on me, etc. I was so exasperated. I can't think of any other word so much so I've used it twice in one paragraph. 

By the end of the weekend, I think both Ken and I felt like we had failed as parents. I don't know.. Are we too permissive? Perhaps not consistent with our discipline? I blame myself because I'm not a stay at home mum but then Karen from our Lg is also working full time and her boys are so well behaved. 

I don't know what to do except keep being firm and consistent and hope this phase will pass. I really miss my baby. 

Sunday, 28 February 2016

What's been on my mind lately

I have been thinking about doing something on the side - something out of interest but not just as a hobby; something with a long-term view. Perhaps developing my writing skills, taking a course, learning how to design with Canva or developing my buried dream of working with people with disabilities.

A few weeks ago, I listened to a podcast on Focus on the Family of a family who have a disabled daughter. Their story was heart-breaking but out of the tragedy, they started Jill's House which is a place that provides respite. While I was listening to their story, I was incredibly moved and the desire I once had to work in the field of disability came alive again. I guess for many years I felt that this area was not very financially rewarding and as Isaac was still young, I didn't have the energy to put any effort into any interest. I remember last year, for most of the week nights, I would come back from work, cook, bathe Isaac and fall asleep in his bed. The next day I would wake up and do the same thing again. My life felt routine, boring and I was frustrated.

I think since summer came around, I find that I am able to stay up a bit more at night. Isaac is now able to sleep in his bed by himself most nights although he still comes into our room in the middle of the night. Hence, I have a bit more time to do the things I like. Most of the time, I end up watching K-dramas which is..hmm..beneficial because it is a big stress reliever for me but I guess it doesn't build up my knowledge and skills in anything useful. It is all fairy tale which I'm sure affects my worldview sometimes too - like how the men are so romantic! We know it's not natural at least not for Ken..he is clueless with things like that haha

Anyway, that's what's going through my mind at the moment!